Anonymous asked: I have a thing with this guy and he pecked me the other day and tonight he is going to kiss me again but I think he going to KISS ME LIKE MAKE OUT. HELP ME the peck was my first kiss and I dont know what to do, I alsowant to tell him, ages ago when we were talking the question about how far we'd gone came up and i said hookup, I was embarrassed, he used to be a bit of a player so he's done it plenty, he is so different with me but I don't want to turn him off How do I tell him he's my first kiss
Once a player always a player, just remember that. You shouldn’t of lied in the first place but I can understand where you’re coming from because I’ve done that too. First of all you need to be extremely careful because a) he was a player and b) making out leads to other things lots of the time. Don’t give your body to someone who has a reputation until you are 100% sure that it’s the right thing, wait no scratch that, don’t give your body to anybody you aren’t 100% sure about. Even if it means removing someones hand from somewhere, like if he’s running his hand up your thigh and you don’t feel comfortable, move it. Don’t allow him to think that he controls you. You will end up giving him what he wants and you will feel used. Don’t be embarrassed about what you have and haven’t done. My first kiss was a French kiss and It was at a dance when I was in grade seven and tbh his mouth tasted like popcorn and I just wanted to stop. I am still unsure on how to ‘make out’ too. Guys try to when I go out and I always make an excuse to not make out. Idk why, I was fine with it before but now I always freeze up and I feel like I can’t do it. If you get into it tonight let him take the lead. If it doesn’t work out who cares just laugh about it and say something stupid like “it’s been a long time”. I know the exact feeling you’re going through. You’re excited to see him but you have that pit in your stomach because you know you’re going to eventually make out with him and it could be tonight. Don’t worry if you turn him off, if he can’t accept you for not having a kiss like that before then it’s not worth it. When he gets right in and your about to kiss look up into his eyes and just tell him and be like “i haven’t kissed before” or something like that and give him a little smile. If you say it flirtatiously he will be careful and wont plant it too hard on you. If you don’t have the courage to do it in person maybe shoot him a text right before you get to his house or wherever you are so he can’t back out because you’re there already. I doubt he would back out if he got that text but I’m just playing it safe. Just because of this the next time I go out and a guy asks to make out I’m going to say yolo and do it. Thank you so much for writing this because you made me realize that I really need to step out of my comfort zone too. I really hope everything works out tonight, please keep me posted.