I have a thing with this guy and he pecked me the other day and tonight he is going to kiss me again but I think he going to KISS ME LIKE MAKE OUT. HELP ME the peck was my first kiss and I dont know what to do, I alsowant to tell him, ages ago when we were talking the question about how far we'd gone came up and i said hookup, I was embarrassed, he used to be a bit of a player so he's done it plenty, he is so different with me but I don't want to turn him off How do I tell him he's my first kiss
Once a player always a player, just remember that. You shouldn’t of lied in the first place but I can understand where you’re coming from because I’ve done that too. First of all you need to be extremely careful because a) he was a player and b) making out leads to other things lots of the time. Don’t give your body to someone who has a reputation until you are 100% sure that it’s the right thing, wait no scratch that, don’t give your body to anybody you aren’t 100% sure about. Even if it means removing someones hand from somewhere, like if he’s running his hand up your thigh and you don’t feel comfortable, move it. Don’t allow him to think that he controls you. You will end up giving him what he wants and you will feel used. Don’t be embarrassed about what you have and haven’t done. My first kiss was a French kiss and It was at a dance when I was in grade seven and tbh his mouth tasted like popcorn and I just wanted to stop. I am still unsure on how to ‘make out’ too. Guys try to when I go out and I always make an excuse to not make out. Idk why, I was fine with it before but now I always freeze up and I feel like I can’t do it. If you get into it tonight let him take the lead. If it doesn’t work out who cares just laugh about it and say something stupid like “it’s been a long time”. I know the exact feeling you’re going through. You’re excited to see him but you have that pit in your stomach because you know you’re going to eventually make out with him and it could be tonight. Don’t worry if you turn him off, if he can’t accept you for not having a kiss like that before then it’s not worth it. When he gets right in and your about to kiss look up into his eyes and just tell him and be like “i haven’t kissed before” or something like that and give him a little smile. If you say it flirtatiously he will be careful and wont plant it too hard on you. If you don’t have the courage to do it in person maybe shoot him a text right before you get to his house or wherever you are so he can’t back out because you’re there already. I doubt he would back out if he got that text but I’m just playing it safe. Just because of this the next time I go out and a guy asks to make out I’m going to say yolo and do it. Thank you so much for writing this because you made me realize that I really need to step out of my comfort zone too. I really hope everything works out tonight, please keep me posted.
i had a thing with a guy for a year, and it started out as just crushing on each other, but then we started to get kinda serious like approaching love, but neither of us ever made a move so we were just in this stalemate and the happiness dwindled. then i decided i couldn't handle it anymore because he was just draining me out, even though we both liked each other so much. so i told him i moved on. we've even dated other people since. the only thing is i miss him now... i don't know how to feel
You knew what was the best for you before. You put yourself first and you did what you thought was right. Things could be different this time, you should shoot him a text and ask to hangout. Sometimes you need to be that person for a couple of times to see if the ‘missing’ feeling is just temporary. You saved yourself a lot of trouble by sticking around to see the bitter end. You are such a strong person to handle that kind of thing because lots of people can’t. I definitely can’t. I have a hard time putting my own feelings first. If you talk again just don’t make it obvious that you’re feeling that way because you don’t want to make him feel like he has another chance and if you decide it’s not right still hurt his feelings. If that makes any sense. It’s okay and totally normal to feel old feelings again.
So I like this boy and he knows and he thought it was really cute and sweet. We are really close and Our other really close friend Kyle's ex girlfriend also likes the boy that I like and she is super skinny and pretty and I'm not ugly I'm just not skinny and I really like this boy but I don't know what to do because we are going to see a movie in the park on Monday but he asked if it was just going to be him and me and I said I don't care but I just want it to be me and him... What do I do?
I think you need to go back to him and be like “you know what I think it would be nice to be just you and I on monday”. It might be one of those texts that you throw your phone across the room and think holy fuck I just did it but it’s something you need to do. Sometimes guys will ask “will it just be me and you” because they are unsure. Lots of the times guys just want it to be just you and him but they are too shy to say oh by the way I think it should be just you and I. Take the initiative and show him how you feel. Don’t let your weight be the reason why you feel uncomfortable. Don’t let it be the reason why it holds you back from being competition for her. If he’s close friends with Kyle they probably have talked and every time she was being a bitch or made kyle feel like shit he probably talked to the boy you like about it. Lots of guys dont like dating their friends exes especially after hearing lots of the bad stuff that happened. If you aren’t clear about how you want things to be you might give him the feeling that you aren’t really as interested in ‘just you and him’ as he is. I feel sorry for that girl because you’re going to give her a hell of a competition. If you show him how you feel (not being too aggressive) he won’t even see her efforts. Sometimes it takes time to catch a guy but if you believe he’s worth it give it your all. If you find excuses to why she deserves him more (like using your weight as an excuse) you’re only going to give the situation reasons to not work out. My face literally looks like an old boot but I make sure it doesn’t stop me from things I really want. Take the initiative sometimes all a guy needs is reassurance without really asking for it. Good luck and please keep me updated
I've been talking to a guy 24/7 for a few months and we hang as much as possible and always hook up. Today he said that he doesnt want to be my boyfriend and now we wont talk anymore and it will just feel so empty and i was really falling for him...
That really fucking sucks. The ending of things really sucks especially when you were really expecting a different outcome. If you two aren’t talking it’s probably because he’s the one who cut it off which is a really big bitch move. You need to learn from this experience. You need to fill where you feel empty with positive energy and you need to push this shit to the side and be bigger than it. Guys try to strain as much as they want out of a situation like the one you two have until the girl says “oh by the way maybe we should be in a relationship”. I’m not saying boys are evil but then I am kind of saying they’re evil. Sometimes you will feel like you are falling for that person or you feel ‘attached’ because of the feelings you have for the person sexually. Next time what I advise you to do is wait it out until you get into a relationship where the guy is positive about how he feels. Some guys are not sure about their feelings and they will use you to feel better about themselves. Don’t be the ‘tester’ girl. You are so much better than that. You need to tell yourself that you didn’t lose anything, he did. It’s true he did lose, he lost someone who cares about him. Only a few people can handle FWB relationships. Someone always cares or becomes attached in the situation. I don’t know what’s going through your head but you just need to remember that it is his loss and there is something better out there for you. These feelings may feel like they will stay forever but they wont. Don’t get caught up in how you feel right now. Learn from it and move on. You will be a better and smarter person after this shitty part. He will get his time one day and when he doesn’t get what he wants he will learn his lesson. You are a beautiful person inside and out and good things are to come if you open yourself up and give happiness another shot.
My boyfriend broke up with me. we were together for a year. I feel so alone and I honestly feel like I will never love someone as much as i love him. Everyone keeps telling me how it will get better and i'll have more fun being single. i understand his reasoning behind ending things but that doesnt make it any easier. i love him and i miss him so much.
I was with my bf for almost a year too. I know exactly how you feel. I thought the same. You are very lucky to have people around you who support you and tell you that you’ll have fun when you’re single. You will. But right now is the time you need to start working on yourself and cut him off. It sucks so so so so so much but it’s something you really have to do. It takes time. It may be a few months or more until you feel stable again but that time will go by fast. You are young and you will never be able to go back to a day again and if you spend it looking down and feeling bad about what happened you will end up wasting lots of time. It is better to have it over now than later when you’re even more attached. You need to find things to do and you do need to give yourself some time even if its just 10 minutes a day to let it all out. Don’t let your sadness control you. This pain is temporary. This kind of stuff makes you stronger. I wish I could give you a huge hug. You need to work on loving yourself again. The universe has a great plan for you. All you have to do is give yourself that push. Surround yourself with positive energy and believe in it.
going through a break up. fighting the urge to text that person and always wondering if they are thinking about you back.
Just ignore them. It burns like a bitch but one day turns into three and three days turns into two weeks. It takes time but the more time you spend apart from the person the more strength you gain and the more happier you become inside. Being in a relationship in 2013 is almost not even worth it too. When everything breaks down it really really really hurts and you have to look at what happened and think “this was a life lesson” that person was put in your life to teach you a lesson. Let time fix what has happened. Sometimes people come back together and sometimes things aren’t supposed to be the way you want. If you spend all of your time thinking about the other person you’re going to get more and more attached even though the other person isn’t feeding into it and you’re going to end up being in a deeper hole than you were in before. You need to place your phone down and find stuff to do. I didn’t take that advice and I spent many of my summers sad sitting at home. To get to where you want to be you need to push yourself. If you ever need someone to talk to to convince you out of talking to that person come off of anon and talk to me, I won’t tell anybody about your situation and it will be just between you and I. You are so much better than being stuck in a hole.
I am going into high school this year and im quite nervous. IM not a very social person (because of my social anxiety) and I have a feeling im gonna be alone most of the time but thats okay with me. Other than knowing everyone hates freshman and to try not to be an ass and just kinda know my place what tips do you have?
Honestly the beginning of high school was a fucking joke for me. I had to switch schools because of being bullied in my first year in a half.
You’re going to lose your ‘friends’. Everyone does. When you go into high school it’s like going from a little pond into an ocean. People who you thought ‘were there’ for you will meet new people and will change groups. So will you. The best thing to do is don’t try to act like someone you aren’t. I did a lot of that and now that I’m graduated and I look back and think lol what did that get me?. Popularity does not matter in the real world so don’t worry about that shit. Focus on what YOU need to do. If people bully or hurt you make sure to write their name down because when you graduate its hilarious to look back at those people. I look back at my ‘bullies’ and I look back at how I felt and I have a good laugh because I am so much better than those people now and they seem SO SMALL.
If you stick around people with positive vibes you will sail through highschool easily. There will always be drama and you just need to be the bigger person and walk away from it. This whole thing about hating freshman I don’t get because we were all at that place once. Being alone is totally fine in high school, it’s a bit uncomfortable but if you find a place in the school you can sit and eat your lunch ( I went into the art room) there will be others there too you can talk to and meet. Social anxiety is hard to beat but there are people out there that want to be your friend. Don’t be afraid to let those people in.
I just reached out to a suicide hotline. I never thought I would ever have to do that but again I never thought I would collapse onto the floor on my way to find a way to kill myself. I just wanted to let you know that if you are in pain and you feel alone that you are not alone. You may know or feel that the people around you don’t care about you but it doesn’t mean the people who are the farthest away from you (people like me) (strangers) don’t care about you. If you feel like you’re alone and you need someone to be there for you, I’m here for you. I almost feel like I might not make it past this weekend but if you need someone to go day by day with don’t be afraid to reach out to me because it could help both you and I. Even if it’s the smallest thing that is taking you down I can try to help. I feel stupid for posting this but idk I just have nobody to talk to.